I think I already mentioned that I Hate Waiting
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Last week was National Infertility Week. At my house, it was Burnetts Get Ready For a Walk Through week so I didn't post anything.
But I watched this video.
What IF? A Portrait of Infertility from Keiko Zoll on Vimeo.
Millions of couples wait - and wait - and wait to have children. Some never do because infertility treatments are too expensive or often don't even work. Adoption is outrageously expensive and bogged down in a ridiculous amount of paperwork invented by sometimes self serving agencies and state and international laws. Domestic adoptions usually start around $10,000 - couples spend tens of thousands of dollars for the privilege of filling out an endless stream of forms, having their privacy invaded, being subjected to months or even years of uncertain hopes and often heartbreak just for the chance to be Considered as adoptive parents. All this when there are literally millions if children in the world who need happy, stable families.
You should watch the video, too.
You should think about what you might be able to do to help make adoption easier to attain financially and legally. You should take a moment to think about how you would feel if you needed treatments that your insurance was not mandated to pay for.
Spend a moment in Keiko's shoes. The video is choppy. That's what infertility feels like - disjointed, uncertain, full of stops and starts. I've experienced all of the thoughts and fears that she outlines and even though my infertility is secondary (I was able to achieve pregnancy twice and bear one child) and we have been blessed with the opportunity to adopt, it is still one of my most horrible demons.
Infertility made me Wait. I hated that.
Interstate adoption requirement and incompetent lawyers made us Wait for Maxx's finalization and Temple sealing. We all hated that. (I'm STILL waitin' on that Birth Certificate, Albany. Could we speed it up a bit?)
And don't try to tell me that Waiting made me stronger or any other nonsense like that - infertility and bureaucratic stupidity surrounding adoption laws disrupted our lives in very real and painful ways. I would LOVE it if the laws surrounding adoption and medical treatments for infertility would change in such a way that other couples and children wouldn't have to Wait.
. . . . .
But I watched this video.
What IF? A Portrait of Infertility from Keiko Zoll on Vimeo.
Millions of couples wait - and wait - and wait to have children. Some never do because infertility treatments are too expensive or often don't even work. Adoption is outrageously expensive and bogged down in a ridiculous amount of paperwork invented by sometimes self serving agencies and state and international laws. Domestic adoptions usually start around $10,000 - couples spend tens of thousands of dollars for the privilege of filling out an endless stream of forms, having their privacy invaded, being subjected to months or even years of uncertain hopes and often heartbreak just for the chance to be Considered as adoptive parents. All this when there are literally millions if children in the world who need happy, stable families.
You should watch the video, too.
You should think about what you might be able to do to help make adoption easier to attain financially and legally. You should take a moment to think about how you would feel if you needed treatments that your insurance was not mandated to pay for.
Spend a moment in Keiko's shoes. The video is choppy. That's what infertility feels like - disjointed, uncertain, full of stops and starts. I've experienced all of the thoughts and fears that she outlines and even though my infertility is secondary (I was able to achieve pregnancy twice and bear one child) and we have been blessed with the opportunity to adopt, it is still one of my most horrible demons.
Infertility made me Wait. I hated that.
And don't try to tell me that Waiting made me stronger or any other nonsense like that - infertility and bureaucratic stupidity surrounding adoption laws disrupted our lives in very real and painful ways. I would LOVE it if the laws surrounding adoption and medical treatments for infertility would change in such a way that other couples and children wouldn't have to Wait.
. . . . .
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